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Good Morning,

I made mention about Christine Pembleton's book "Lord, I'm Ready to be a Wife" last night, but now she has a sale where you can buy one and get another free but the sale is only for a limited time until January 7th. so, go to www.christinepembleton.com and check it out for yourself. Waiting for my Tonya TKO order and Glenda's book is on the money. Get her book too $16.95 with free shipping which ends today. after that, you pay the price of the book and shipping as well. Since I'm referring to deals on getting a man, getting married, let me say a few words on this subject.
Just recently, I was working on a job with the Salvation Army raising money for Christmas, and on the way back from picking us up from our locations, this one girl begged the driver to listen to this particular song, which I found out that my youngest just loves, and in the song, the woman, the girl says "and it kills me to know how much I really love you, so much I wanna oh oh oh" well I got the name of the woman but forgot and I took it to Facebook and two ladies there was kind enough to let me know and I went to You Tube and I found it. Anyway, Melanie Fiona's "It Kills Me" which is a hit with the young ladies and myself grudgingly and I say grudgingly because although the song sounds so good and all, let me say this. It might hurt you inside to tell a man look this ain't working out and I won't tolerate but honey, it won't kill you unless you let it. Trust me, I know what I'm talking about. My ex was an SOB, and caused me a lot of pain. My mother likes to remind me of it and she acts like it happened to her more than me but that's another story. Another man might hurt you, devastate you but hon, he can't kill you. Believe me, I'm a living witness; It will hurt, and it might seems like it's killing your insides and parts of you, but you AIN'T DEAD!!! you can move on. you can learn from it and you can love someone else who loves you for you. After my marriage went south, I didn't deal with men much after that. Some would come and I'd kick them to the curb because I feel it isn't worth my time. I got a couple of guys not far from me that approach me and I've said NO because I know it ain't nothing but drama and we have nothing in common. But hon, if you keep looking, you don't have to have what you had before. You can have better. To me, that song is misleading to these young women. Now young girls think it's the thing to have someone and most of these young men got some twisted ideas in their heads. They cheat on them, they beat and hit them, they torture them; some even kill them. I know of two situations that come to mind and the young ladies in question were killed by the one they loved. One got burned up so bad because she broke up with the boy; he was a QB for one of our local high schools and now he's in prison for the rest of his life. Another girl just got buried when while trying to run from her boyfriend, he found her, killed her and now five kids are without parents because he can't do much from a cell. What can he tell his kids?
Ladies, you can love a song but be realistic with it. ain't nothing killing you but a bullet or sickness. And if you want someone, get with someone that can be good for you and your family. And if you want my opinion, ask God for guidance and listen to what he says. You be blessed and hit 2010 with some smarts. Be blessed and be safe.

The Best Is Yet To Come

Well here we are to the end of another year. and I tell you, this year was something. For one, seeing the first African American man become President of the United States was a sight to behold. No lie. Anyone over forty years old and African American know what I'm talking about. We NEVER thought we'd see this happen, yet, to see it in MY lifetime, what a joy to behold. My only regret is that my eldest sister and father didn't live long enough to see this happen. My eldest brother and I talked about that on Election Night. That to me was the saddest part. My eldest sister was a heck of an achiever. She voted in each election.She was a lawyer who worked for the FDIC, and traveled around to the banks doing legal work. The 2000 fiasco was the last major election she voted in. She died in May of 2003. She would have gotten a kick out of Obama. My daddy, however, lived long enough to see Obama do the Keynote Address in 2004, when we all was saying Obama Who? We felt then the brother had skills and a promising future. He also lived to see him running for President but he died three months after his announcement. To me that was real sad because my sister, father and I were such political pundits. we all had a take. I miss their inputs greatly.
Then, in the middle of this man becoming President, we also see one of the worse times in American history go down with this recession. Now, raised as a Seventh day Adventist, and still attend when I can, I know that time, as we know it is winding down. what we going through is the prelude to the interlude. I hate to say it but the way things are, you can't help but notice. My advice to you is dust off your bibles, read and take heed.
One of the saddest things to see happen this year is saying goodbye to a legend and that was Michael Jackson. My boyfriend told me he died, and I called him a liar, knowing he don't play games, but I just didn't want to believe it. I grew up on the Jackson 5; My siblings and I had a group and baby we did some serious rehearsing to get our act together and remembering the times, we worked HARD. we even did a Christmas show for the family one year and we worked hard on that. I still remember my brother and sister coaching us and telling us how to perform. so I can imagine what Michael had to go through from the time he was old enough to hit Kindergarten to basically the day he died. It still breaks my heart.
I am a member of Facebook, and i have to say that most of the members there are pumping up the rest of us to face 2010. I want great things to happen too but I ain't broadcasting it. Nope. I want great things. the best things. I believed Tony Bennett when he sung "The Best is Yet To Come" and it's somehow become my mantra. I dropped it for a bit but now I believe I need to say it daily. The best is yet to come. The best is yet to come. like some of the folks say around here. Sho nuff.
I got Glenda's book today in the mail. I am hoping to get Tonya's package tommorrow via Fed Ex(according to ship'ng #) And Glenda's book, from the little I've read, EVERY YOUNG GIRL and WOMAN from age 16 onward(and some of these think they grown ones) need to sit down and get a copy of this book and take the advice for real. let me help ya'll out. www.pinkisspublishing.com and it's only $16.95 with free shipping until New Year's Eve(tommorrow). Men, if you know some lady who could use the book, order it for her. No lie. Her book is called once again, How to Get Him to Put that Ring on your Finger in 365 Days or Less. Now like I said in the last blog, Glenda's been married five times and seriously considering getting with another brother for her #6 ride and she has received endorsements from some of her exes on the book as well as an ex boyfriend. So if anyone has any experience in the field, who you gonna see? I also advise you to check out Christine Pembleton's "Lord, I'm Ready to Be a Wife" for a more Christian stance on marriage and getting ready for it. You can get her book for $3 shipping only and I'll get the link but www.christinepembleton.com is a good place to start.
Another product I want to endorse big time is Nubian Heritage. Their soaps are so good, so cheap and in my opinion great for your body and don't cost a lot plus you buying black all day long when you get their products. I LOVE their Honey and Black Seed soap. those seeds inside scrape my skin so good that by the time I'm out of that bath, your skin feels so good. Their Olive oil is also great and they have a great line of lotions, butters and other products. These folks started on the streets of Harlem in 1991, and has since pushed forward to some great things. When I discovered them in 2003 during a trip to NYC, I had to buy them online or get my brother to bring some when he came. Thank the good Lord, they are here now. www.nubianheritage.com is the place
Ok, here's my thing for 2010. If you want to do a resolution, do it; but work on it yourself or with someone supportive for feedback and get it to fullfillment. I have started on one myself. I pray to keep it up. OK. I am about to be history. here are the links mentioned; If you stumbled across my site, leave a comment. I won't bite. And if I don't do another tommorrow, Happy New Year in 2010!!
Links.
www.pinkisspublishing.com
www.christinepembleton.com
www.nubianheritage.com

Christmas TIdings and Other Musings

A month ago, I wrote on here about the movie "Precious", which to me is a wake up call to America. Tonight, I saw the complete opposite with Disney's "The Princess and The Frog", which although have some things within the picture that is not altogether positive to African Americans, there was other things that made me admire them. In this movie, the young heroine, Tiana, had a dream to open a restaurant, a dream that started with her father and kept on living within her. She grew up, basically saving practically every dime and tip to make this dream a reality. And her own mother, who although happy for her, was complaining about grandbabies.What I liked about Tiana was that she had a dream, and in spite of the times(1920s New Orleans), she held on tight and worked tirelessly for that dream of her own restaurant. And the Prince who became a frog and initially so self centered, began to see the dream for himself to the point of marrying someone else just so that Tiana could get her own dream accomplished. But as in films, true love and unselfishness ruled.
After watching the film, I thought about my own life, and I remembered wanting to have a home of my own, but a place where my artwork that still remains under my mother's bed could be displayed and admired(or disliked), and I wondered deep down in a place where folks can't keep a job much less a house, could it be I can have one? aahh the thought. But I noticed that with Tiana, in spite of things, she kept on forging until she got what she wanted. I feel I can do likewise.
As for Christmas, Mom cooked some potato salad, rice and peas, turkey breast that I brought home and sweet potato and dressing and had a nice quiet Christmas Day. I couldn't cook it because I worked Christmas Eve for the Salvation Army.She then went with her best pal just like Thanksgiving and they are having a ball.Her daughter calls them Thelma and Louise. The girls got some money from their father and step mom, so that took the heat somewhat off me but I promised them something and I don't like to renege. so I will. I was also (finally)although it was close to the wire, ordered Tonya Tko's Bombshell Package that she advertised($99.99 with free shipping) as well as some extras because my eldest got caught up in Tonya's shea products too. so hopefully that will keep us going till she comes back in February from her hiatus in Nevis, where she does her winter sojourns at. (Safe travels) If you want the flyest,kissable skin on earth in time for the beach weather and you have the cash to spare, order some before tommorrow(Sunday 12/27) because she will shut down the buy buttons.
If you are having problems getting a brother to the altar, then you need to check out my friend Glenda Wallace's "How To Get Him to Put that Ring on Your Finger in 365 Days or Less" and before you ask well, how the devil would she know anything about that, let me say that sistergirl herself has been down the aisle five times, and has a steady who is trying to be #6. I tell you,it won't hurt to check out her book objectively and see what it can do. I feel like this: she's been there, she can help a sister out. order her book at www.pinkkisspublishing.com for $16.95. Glenda also has a podcast on Wednesdays dealing with male female relationships which have been enlightening. Check a sister out. Once I sit down and read, you'll get my take on the book as well as Tonya's Bombshell package although I must say that if it's like the shea butter souffle, then I know she put her foot and some love in the products.
One book that I finally got to buy, sit down and read yesterday was the late E.Lynn Harris' "Mama Dearest", which continued the story of those true divas Ava and her talented daughter Yancey Harrington Braxton, better known as Yancey B. both are down on their luck, but it is not long when lady luck shines on them in a certain way and Yancey finds out that the child she gave up is now a star in her own right. Honey, this is a bumpy one when these two divas get to stepping, so put on your stepping shoes, sit down with your favorite beverage and get ready for a heck of a book. Oh, it hurt my heart to know that E.Lynn is gone. it was so sudden and just as he was about to take some of his work to film. And to know that Yancey, Ava, Raymond, Nicole, Basil and others went with him is hard to imagine. R.I.P. and much love E.Lynn.
Today, I was able to go to church after Christmas. Sadly I take care of my client on weekends and I miss out on services. that is something i don't recommend to anyone. If you know your soul needs a lift, take yourself to church. Look, my brother does the tours in Harlem which also makes stops at churches and Sylvia's and if those mostly white tourists can get caught up, then we should too. Get to church. You'll be glad you did.
I pray everyone's Christmas was a good one. Just that you can read this, thank the good Lord that you made it another year. God bless you as you hit into the new one. Peace, Love and Hairgrease.


Peace and Love.

New Updates

Hello again peeps. Just want to throw a shout out to my boy Brian who took his first plane ride from Mobile to Baltimore for the holidays to be with his eldest brother. Hope you didn't go off on the plane my brother.
Well, because of my working, I haven't been able to hit this blog, but have some updates for you. Tonya Tko has put out her Bombshell Pack just in time for the Christmas holidays to the tune of $99 plus free shipping as her present to you. However, I suggest you get on top of this if you want the best skin because she'll be closing down shop soon to go on her annual hiatus to the Caribbean. again, her shea butter is very good, and with the other items, you'll have beautiful skin in time for bikini season. once again the site www.tkoskin.com; she takes Paypal as well as credit and debit cards. So, for me, I'll be getting one of my items for the holidays.
My other favorite site, Lucretia's Body Oils and Sprays almost sold the house out with their After Thanksgiving Sale. Hon ALL prices went down and though a sister was tempted, you can't get but so much; I must say though that her raw black soap, which was on sale for $5 regular $7, is very good. a bit drying but at least you know that your skin is clean and clearing up plus with Tonya's shea butter, it's softer. Her bubble bath butters is a hit I got the Italian Ice, which reminded me of my childhood and eating them as a kid in New York City, and though I love my girl I worry about her filling orders and all by herself. I beg her to get some rest. Tonya too. but I'm not hating on a sister but I know you can only do but so much by yourself. So I tell them, please rest when you can. Anyhow, I know got the Lolita Lumpekica as a lotion, moisturizing body spray as well as the oil and child, I wouldn't put it on going to work but I know when I do I'll be smelling and looking fab thanks to these two ladies. Me myself, nothing against the holidays but income tax time is also the best time to put out a sale because folks have money then as well. The jury is still out on my mom with the oils she got but she said they smelled like the real thing. Also for the rest of December, for her facebook fans, her products are 10% off. take advantage of her site and facebook page. www.stores.lawbodyoilsandsprays.com
One more place I plan to patronize is Philadelphia native Kimberly Ann's Sweet Waxations site. I hear tell she has a hair butter that's great for edges and thinning parts as well as sweet smelling candles so. Hon, be a sweetie and indulge. www.sweetwaxations.com
Oh, a shout out to Lutishia Lovely who was kind to send me her upcoming book"Reverend Feelgood" which to me deal with scandals and "temple hos" in a new way. hmm.
Well that is it for today. Although I'm off, I got to take care of some things today. One more week before Christmas hits and it's a biggie folks. Lots of love to those who want to make it happen for themselves and others. And like the song says, give some love on Christmas Day. Me myself, I plan to rest cause a sister is tired!! nothing but love to all.

My favorite Wish List for 2009

This is my first blog here at Blogger true, but when Yahoo had its 360 community(which sadly closed down this past July), I used to do a Christmas Wish List for each year and since I've started here, yet have no takers, it don't mean that I dispense with tradition. So here it goes:
1. The ability to love and hold my tongue for my family.
2. A nest egg
3. A laptop. preferably in a reasonable price range, with enough memory, quickness for me to take anywhere and do with ease. no more than 4GB; no more than $400.
4. An Amazon Kindle. I have truly lusted and drooled over one of these over a year now and though we know have the Nook coming, I still crave a Kindle. and right now I am torn between the Kindle and laptop although the kindle would cost less even with insurance and extras.
5. Daniel Leon Hodges is an artist out of St Louis, whose works are known primarily in his hometown but gaining on Facebook.His piece of a grandma reading her well read and worn Bible by the window propped up with a rolling pin and other items(shown on top) is becoming a favorite.
6. A gift certificate to Lucretia's Body Oils and Sprays. This lady as I mentioned in previous blogs,is one I just discovered this year via Ateyaa on YouTube. She sells the best smelling oils and sprays in 900 different scents and for way less and if you didn't know any better, they smell just like the high dollar brand perfumes out there. She also sells some sweet smelling bath bombs,fizzies, butters and lo cal ones. As well as black soap(the natural kind), butters for the body which she claims will soak your skin(working on that).I love her Pussy, which can be used alone and worn with other scents; Lolita Lempicka, Queen and Black Woman oils and you can check her out at www.stores.lawbodyoilsandsprays.com. Also check her Facebook page for discounts on her sales and become a fan. tell her Nandi sent you. her Nov winner.
7. new jeans. I was fortunate to discover Ashley Stewart up in Atlanta when I went to visit family there. Sadly, I wore them babies out. So, now I am in the market for some new ones. Help a sister out with some gifts cards to The Gap, Ashley Stewart, Baby Phat etc.
8. Some more shea butter Please. Tonya TKO, who is pretty popular on Youtube for her talks & vlogs has come out with a new line of shea butters. She started with the shea butter souffles, which I have bought, they go on rough, but smoothes out quite nice, and already although it has only been a week, I see some changes. she now has her body butter beautiful which can be added with Vit E or wheatgerm; and her Vitamin E oil which is about to drop soon. However, I advise that you please order now from her because she will shutting down soon to go to the Caribbean where she goes for the Winter. www.tkoskin.com is the place to go for pretty skin.
9. a gift certificate to Amazon.com; my favorite bookstore online for all that ails you. I use Amazon as a reference for books and other things and I have a wish list there and serve as one of their Amazon Viners, who receive books and other items they request each month and review on the site.
10. A car. a Hybrid would be great, but Donald Trump is not my name but still something that rides well, great on gas and mileage and don't break down every two minutes will do the trick for me.
11. gift certificates to Bath and Body Works, my local black Bookstore Black Classics, Mobile, Ala; Walmart, Brunos and Virginia's Health Food Store.
12. a house and no funky sub prime loan behind it either. I'm a veteran, give me the skinny on the real..
Well that is it. Be blessed.

Tiger Woods and Other Musings

To be honest, I don't think that life will ever get so hum drum when others lives are out there to examine; Lately, the biggest thing going on now is the Tiger Woods situation. Now mind you, when the whole thing started, I figured, well a man going out in the middle of the night, the wife notices something amiss, she saves him, end of story. But when neither parties kept stalling to speak with law enforcement, I noticed something was definitely amiss here. Then when he made the initial statement of not being "perfect", I am like, are you serious? not this young fella who embraced all his ethnicities, then married a woman of Scandinavian decent, and got two lovely children with her. You out there with bottom basement, cave dwelling chicks looking for their ships to come in the form of this brilliant golfer looking for a certain itch? aww.... something is not right with this picture.
But then again, let me go on record to say this. Ellie Woods must have been listening to Jazmine Sullivan's "Bust Your Windows" cause she sure knew what to do the other night. Sadly, it caused outsiders now to look at them and make judgement calls. Plus, if charges were filed, Ellie would have went to jail.
Then again, lately, in the public and private arenas, this thing is becoming more commonplace. I have always believed that love is something every woman should have and hold; sadly, that's an illusion. I have seen many a woman stick to a sorry man for whatever reason just to hold family together. One book I read a few years back that I had almost thrown out the window is one aptly titled "Weeping Willows Dance" where a young girl marries a man much older than her and upon the advice of her mother, stuck with him to the end, although he made her life a mockery and pure hell while together and to me, that's a disgrace. I may be wrong but it seems to me if I have to have peace to and by myself instead of hell on earth with one crazy man, I don't need it. I rather the peace by myself any day. After all, you only get one life on this earth, no do overs or reincarnations.
I have a rule I would like to put forth here for all those contemplating matrimony. Maybe I'm a bit cock eyed, but to me, this would do better than cause problems later.
If your in your 20s, go out there and have a good time; If you know your promiscuous, or have to have some strange stuff, your not marriage material; have your strange fruit.
When you realize that that life is NOT for you, or your get tired of it or you ran your course in the conquering department, make sure that you are ready to settle down and find someone who will embrace you for you, and after careful thought, prayer, and deliberation. (Yeah I added prayer, who but Jesus could help us in these situations?) move towards marriage and being with that person.
Now some may look at this and say, well, I met a nice girl or guy and I feel we can make it and I'm in my 20s; well you may be, but sometimes in those situations, there may be pressure to marry; there may be a baby coming, something. Unless you feel your 100% for the person, don't do it. save yourself the hurt you'll cause your mate and chill. If you ask me, I feel folks should wait until they are mature; but in their 30s is a good thing. My parents met and married and they were in their 30s; My cousin, now my godmother introduced them, and they wrote each other; when she came to the U.S., my father was hitting 40, but he knew my mom was the one and they married for 45 years until he died two years ago. See, you gotta want to work at your marriage, as well as be there for the person; because in time, you'll end up as roommates. no lie. I see that all the time.
Ok, I'm done. I hope a lesson is learned here and you take your time to the matrimony game. I am gone. Do comment.